Can you add that to your signature? Put the GOOD things on the sig too man! It helps boost confidence
The other plus QS is that she didn't lie, she cancelled teh application.. AND got a truth dart to boot! lol
If you are married or separated you do NOT DATE... BOOM! lol
The anger will pass QS, its part of her growing up and reconciling her emotions with her situation.. Right now she's in a situation that her emotions cannot manage and the end result is ... ABUSE and RAGE...
Over time once her emotions adjust to her situation and there's some emotional GROWTH there the anger will dissipate... It takes time and YOU need to keep a steady eye on the prize while she's there or you will get sucked in and start yelling and cursing right along with her...
Argghh. I just checked the phone records for this evening, and she called the Facebook guy twice, each call lasting less than 1 min. It looks like her call went straight to voicemail, and the guy is completely ignoring her. Let's hope he doesn't call her back and he really got my message.
Oh and she just texted him. So 3 communications now in like an hour and a half.
eHarmony last night, and now calling this guy twice and texting in 80 min.
What is going on here? She seems to take every opportunity to try and find other people.
Does this ever end? Or will her stubbornness keep her going on this same track?
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Uggh, Now she just Facebook messaged him that she wants to visit him.
So that's FOUR messages tonight to him. FOUR.
Will this really ever end? She is simply NOT giving up on this. I have never seen such determination before in a woman. If she put HALF that determination into the marriage, we'd be blissfully happy now.
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
It is almost like she is addicted to the DIVORCE. She CONSTANTLY has to be doing something to move it forward. Every single day she accomplishes something toward it.
She has made 3 calls to her lawyer lately, I assume to find out why I have not been served. She has made 8 different websearches looking for public records to see if it has been filed in the court. She constantly is sorting through her things, and keeping EVERY receipt. She is requesting more and more time away on business, to the point she will only be home 1 week in the entire month of August. Like I said, she is probably one of the most stubborn people you will EVER meet. It is really like she is absolutely obsessed with the divorce, and how to GET IT DONE FASTER.
Then add onto that she still messages the Facebook guy, and the wants to set up an online dating profile. All this after about a month of DB, 180s, and more housework and being a responsible spouse than I have ever done.
The searching for other people really tells me that she appears to be done IN HER MIND. She was THE biggest opponent of cheating before. Now it doesn't matter to her.
Has anyone ever met this level of determination and obsession about getting a divorce done?
And what do I do about her constantly still trying to contact the OM? Doesn't all the messaging make her look desparate and needy?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Well my worst fears are confirmed. The Facebook guy responded to her message of her wanting to visit, asking her when she wanted to come see him.
Man this is a nightmare. I don't know what to do with this. I can't let her know I know, and I can't contact him AGAIN, otherwise she will know I have very extensive intel.
This is not turning out very good right now. Her persistence paid off with him.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
She's already filed for divorce. I'm afraid there's not really many boundaries you can set with her now, other than, say, not disrespecting you by talking to him (or about him) in front of you, etc.
QS she has a void in her fright now... distance in marriage creates a void.. oftentimes people fill that with a person and that's how the infidelity starts...
your wife's obsession is to fill that void
The thing is, she can fill that with something healhty like a gym membership or rock climbing or volunteeer work.. but she's looking for destructive avenues because the payoff is quicker and more exciting...
DOn't be surprised if she starts shopping heavilly or drinking more
