Hey, PDT. Did you see both of my last or just the mediator thing? I plan on having the GPS phone later today. But I'm "stuck" on the "in-house" surveilance.
It's possible. I can't confirm a guy cause the only one I could come up with was ruled out. I haven't completely ruled him out but I can't find any evidence of anything. She seems to spend most of the time with Amanda, She took her to Edmonton (there was no record of OM last name on any of the 13 hotels near the mall they went). And I don't have manda's last name.....yet.
Either way, I'd love to know the topics of conversation. Find out her real intentions; see if there is a man in the wings; see what she thinks about R, etc.
If it weren't for that sex lotion incident, I don't know if I'd suspect anything.
Tomorrow is Canada Day up here so it's a holiday. To refresh, she sayed at Amanda's Sunday night (after hospital) and last night too for some reason.
On my way home from work (though she called me today for some reason. She had her mon's car; doing maintenance; blah, blah)she texts one sentence.
"I won't be home tonight" I saw it (so she sees an 'R' by the message indicating I opened it) and I did't reply at all.
30 minutes later I have another but I haven't looked yet. I had to pick up D and I wanted to get this info on the board for some help.
This time there is no mention of where or who. This is three nights in a week away from D. She is rearranging her "plans" for the weekend due to her confusion over my agenda on the 50th Anniversary. I haven't had the opportunity to put a GPS phone in her truck. I still have no access to her cell phone. I haven't got a plan for microphones in the house on the weekend.
My gut has been flopping for two hours.
I am so angry; hurt; disappointed right now I have no words. I'm not giving up on me here, FYI. I worked out this imorning and had a good "work day"
Is it possible she is pushing for a reaction? If so, since I can't prove an affair, could it be possible she is trying to: -force my hand to start the Sep Paper (so, again, it isn't her work or decision)? -isn't getting the pursuing she is expecting; is having second thoughts; and wants me to break the ice? -just being an inconsiderate selfish teenager who is going to make some HUGE mistakes? -eating cake since I have been ignoring the Sep papers and biding my time. I have seen time as my ally in this because the more that goes by, the more time she has to "get the big picture"
I am really confused right now. I haven't had the opportunity to set the cell phone etiquete boundary and I don't have hard intel that anything is actually going on.
PLEASE, before I read and send a response (if I even choose to), can I get some input?
Thank you so much, everyone.
Sandi, haven't heard your thoughts for a while so......
I would ignore her messages, but this week, I think you need to draw up a formal agreement between the two of you for how your daughter spends her time, with whom, and what the ground rules are about her care and communicating with each other about same.
It was going to be one of my boundaries as far as the "primary care parent" notifying the other if D wasn't going to be at home in her bed.
I'm tired of D being treated like a "gypsy" when W has her and a "leper" when she doesn't.
And the banking is going to next. I need to stop conributing to her activities and begin compiling my own "egg"; or at least insuring it is spent on D and I.
The personal boundary will be "leave the room to read or send text msgs'
I'd love some "sample scripts for the "childcare rules" and "banking"
