Punkin, I admit I wonder about those same things sometimes.
I backed off when I came to the realization I can't fix it this time. I've let go and let God.
I've backed away and given H the space and time to work it out for himself and maybe miss what I thought we had in the process. In the meantime I'm working on being a better me.
The thing that has helped me the most is to remember the blessings I received from the M and it will all work out just as it is supposed to in God's plan and time.
Standing doesn't mean you have to stand still and you seem to be doing a good job of moving forward!
