Punkin, I admit I wonder about those same things sometimes.
I backed off when I came to the realization I can't fix it this time. I've let go and let God.
I've backed away and given H the space and time to work it out for himself and maybe miss what I thought we had in the process. In the meantime I'm working on being a better me.
The thing that has helped me the most is to remember the blessings I received from the M and it will all work out just as it is supposed to in God's plan and time.
Standing doesn't mean you have to stand still and you seem to be doing a good job of moving forward!
Sometimes I think yes, sometimes no. Right now I'm fighting the notion to take the SOB to the cleaners and call it good.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Well if I was questioning whether H was having a MLC before, I'm not now. He pulls in the driveway today on his new Harley.
To be fair he owned a motorcycle a long time ago. A few years ago one of his best friend's daughter was killed in a motorcycle accident and he told me then he would never own another bike.
I realize it's none of my business anymore and although I'm glad he got another bike if it makes him happy, I can't help but worry the way he drives at this time. He just isn't as aware of other vehicles like he used to be and has had several close calls.
Hi SA - Lots of work with the hay...but it needs to get done, so I hope that the weather holds for you. Hopefully you will find some time for fun and relaxation after.
That new Harley sure confirms the MLC diagnosis, doesn't it...
(((hugs)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Mila, Sounds like the weather is going to hold for a while. I'm tired out after a day of haying. My relaxation is my bed. LOL
Yes ladies, seems like motorcycles can be a MLC symptom...
Had a little tidbit of information confirming that all is not rosy in H and ow's r. D17 had to use her dad's cell phone and (unbeknownest to me)checked out a few text messages from H to ow. One stated that he was tired of her being depressed over the time he spent with his daughters. He said he was not going to quit going to their functions or spending time with them. Geez, he's sees them once a week for a few hours.
Another one stated that he didn't want to hear her be-otching about the money they spent while on vacation. It didn't cost as much as she thought it had.
H ran the baler today for the hay session. D17 said that it appeared that ow texted H every five minutes. She said that was exaggerated, but it was often.
Know that none of this means a dam* thing. I just thought it was interesting that our wise ones have said that our S's R with the OP isn't always what we may think it is.
Maybe it has something to do with the whole vroom vroom sound LOL.
Sa,
Are you starting to believe what we have all said about the OP?
We don't see everything that goes on behind the scenes, and at the beginning, it is very easy to imagine that everything is rosy. Why shouldn't it be? Would you go off and be with someone that you are not happy with? I wouldn't.
Because people in MLC aren't happy with themselves, the euphoria that they feel that makes them turn to OP, doesn't last. That is the reason some have more than one. Not because of us and how miserable they were with us.
As time passes and you watch them, you begin to see through the mask that is presented most of the time.
Sorry I haven't been up on the PH stuff. It just sort of eludes my brain until I am not any where near a computer.
Have a great holiday my friend.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
I figured that if ow made H as happy as he thought she would, he probably wouldn't have bought the motorcycle. H is still chasing that elusive happiness.
I truly hope that he finds it one day. I can't imagine living my life in misery all the time.
