She just looked at me while I spoke. I asked if she was ready to try and reconcile and she said "I don't know".
The rest of your conversation probably shouldn't have continued. You should have replied "OK, then I guess I have my answer. I have a lot of thinking to do," and turned and walked away and completely DROPPED THE ROPE from that point forward.
You can (and should, in my opinion), STILL do that, but that would have been a much more effective point at which to convey your stance.
The "leading" points I posted to you just above are needed, but you can only effectively communicate them when she's at a "What will it take?"/"I'll do anything!" moment. She's not there, and I'd advise you to stop pursuing her now and pull WWWWAAAAYYYYY back.
