For my 50th last year, I went on a cruise with 7 close friends from High School. It was something we had planned since we were in School, more jokingly, at the time. My H had a hissy fit. How would I dare go on a cruise with girlfriends. We were probably heading out to lay pool boys and maitre'd's. It was quite a battle, but I won and went, although his unhappiness shadowed my trip. It's one of the things he still holds against me.

My point being, have a great time with your friends. If your H has a problem, it's HIS problem. Whatever you do, don't let it spoil your good time like I did.

ME: 54
Him: 51
M: 20 years T: 21 years
OW/New wife: 36
Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36)
Bomb: March 4, 2010
He Filed: April 28, 2010
I Contested: May 1, 2010
Standing Down: 11/24/10
Divorced : 05/04/2011