Since we've had several days of pleasant, short interactions in which WH has been acting like his old self, I felt a strong need to spend more time with him last night. I know it wasn't good distancing and DBing, but after weighing the pros and cons for several minutes, I decided to sit and watch part of a movie with him ("Journey to the Center of the Earth" with Brendan Frasier).
It was nice - just the two of us. I asked several science-related questions throughout, knowing he'd know the answer (what species is that? What classification?), then I praised him and marveled out how smart he is. He, of course, ate it up. By the end of the movie, we were laughing and joking like we used to. IT FELT SO GOOD!
Then he brushed his teeth and went downstairs to the basement without saying a word.
I sighed and went to bed myself, wondering WHY IN THE WORLD he's being SO stubborn! I know he has to do this in his own time, and he IS coming back to me SLOWLY, but I'm getting worn out, doing all the heavy lifting in this relationship myself.
I heard him up at 4 am.
I thought it was an intruder, because he's NEVER up at that hour, but then I heard him putting ice cubes in a glass and getting water. I went to the top of the stairs to listen. He stood in the kitchen for a long moment, sighed and said "Damnit!" before he went back downstairs.
I'm not sure what to make of it. He's acting SO confused! The tension between us is gone - no more eggshells - yet he's sticking to the basement and avoiding relationship talks like the plague.
I have my last call with Larry today and will quiz him on this, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has seen this kind of behavior. Is he getting ready to bolt? Or is he wrestling with a desire to reconcile? Any input?
And if it IS a desire to reconcile, what can I do to tip his hand in my favor?
