I need to figure out whether I am protecting myself by not being open with him about my feelings (protecting my dignity) or whether I am protecting him (not wanting to force him into the yuckiness of having to deal with my true desire, which is to reconcile).
wow, good "question!" It does seem like you have mentioned your concern for your dignity a few times...so the motivation for not showing your feelings isn't to bust the divorce? I didn't realize that.
That was my only motivation, other than avoiding being rejected by stbxh's response to my feelings. So you mean you might be wanting to protect your H from having an uncomfortable conversation about the idea of reconciliation? Or what would be you be protecting him from exactly?
(((Flowmom)))
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
