Yes, when I signed on, I saw people say "DBing is for YOU." and I thought "um, excuse me, but DIVORCE. BUSTING.isn't that the point?" And I read the books and saw that we make changes in ourselves, but I was doing it initially as motivation for wanting stbxh do dump OW and come back.
It was when I started feeling empowered from making the changes that I realized DBing was helping me beacuse if the spouse is too far gone, then at least it will help me BUST some of the damage from DIVORCE...you know? Provide a shield, give me "muscles" (self confidence) and be able to recover sooner.
Ok so I also do not want to call it DBing once I have healed from my divorce, so I am not going to say I am DBing forever. BUt I will say that I will continue to GAL forever and use what I've learned in future relationships.
The divorce has been filed. I won't fully drop the rope until it is completed. but I am only GALing at this point and trying to identify appropriate boundaries for how to interact with my stbxh because we are co-parenting. I am not putting any more effort into saving the marriage. It's his turn! (if he wanted to)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
