Does DB'ing work if OW is playing the victim?!?!

[xin]

Deep,

Thanks for your advice. I know what you're saying. I've been reminding myself not to do things because I want H to change his mind about our M. But to do them because I want to. I'm still doing stuff for H, like cooking and cleaning. But I'm doing it because I still considered him my H and as long as i'm here and he's still my H, i'd continue to do it. But i'm also planning for my future with him and no longer crying and begging him to work on our M.