My Wife is Having an Affair with Co-Worker

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My W and I are presently in divorce proceedings. I do not know what to in my thread at this point to have a chance to give our M a chance and drop the OM. I did expose to his W, but there has been no effect. The OM and OMW have not even discussed that they both know what we have been communicating.

W will not give up her A.

I have a thread in the "newcomers" section. More specifics are there.

I do not want a D, but she filed, so I have no choice and little time to save my marriage if it is at all possible. I have made mistakes before I found this site. I am sure I am still making mistakes. I have not had the resources to buy DB/DR to help further. I have to fly a little blind and try to pick-up what I am able to by reading other threads and learning from responses to mine.

I need some hand holding to break the affair or learn to make myself better to help my R with my STBXW.

I do not want D. I hope to save my M even if I in the process of D.

Please provide any guidance possible.

Thank you!