Wow, silentspring2! This sounds so much like my sitch in reverse!
I had this wife whom I loved with all of my heart and all of my soul.
She wanted to live in a beautiful place, so we moved there. She wanted a beautiful home, so I gave her one.
And she got up one day and decided she had the life she wanted, and that being said, she didn’t give a crap about me as long as that didn’t change and she had what she wanted.
So she decided to sit on her hind end and not to produce income for the better part of a decade despite claiming to be a career woman who would always contribute. She played around on the Internet and convinced herself she had a real job while we had real bills to pay.
And she decided not to clean the house for the better part of a decade to the point we lived in squalor with our wonderful son. And she decided not to support me for the better part of a decade. While I succeeded at work, despite it all, I felt like a failure because of how she treated me.
And she built relationships with nameless, faceless people online rather than with her husband who adored her. And she built no relationships with any real people around her. She abandoned me and my son and all that went with the vows of marriage. Everything was shoved into my lap, financially and domestically.
I cried, I begged, I pleaded. “Please help me” as I was drowning financially and emotionally. I begged over and over and over again. I told her of my pain. I told her there were days I didn’t want to live anymore. I told her I was sick and needed her help.
She didn’t care.
I had never felt so used and ripped off in my life. And when the day came that I couldn’t stand it anymore and left, she never once said she was sorry for what she had done to me. Not a word of it. In fact, she ruined me with my friends and my peers and made a joke of me.
Never a word of love or compassion after months. I read all of these beautiful threads full of love and regret here from other people. This was all much easier, I suppose, than saying “I am sorry” and vowing to do better.
I deserved none of this. I deserve better in life, and I am well on my way to finding it!!! She can think whatever she wants to think. She can look elsewhere besides the mirror. She can strip me and stab me in front of my peers. She can find all the validation she wants online with her warped sense of reality. I know the truth, and I know in my heart that I loved her and I did all I could for her for nearly two decades.
I've just decided to GAL!!!!! I love my son, I love my life, and I am moving on with the people who truly care about me.
She recently said I was "living the love of a sad man." I was! Because I was fighting a lost cause. But not anymore.
I will always be there for my boy! My son gave me a hug and said to me this weekend: “I like when you’re happy, Daddy. You’re happy all the time.”
