I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

So I had a pretty good day with S! I don't know if it is me or because he is almost 1, his personality is really shining through. But I can actually play with him at the park on the swing where I hold him up 1,2, and then I say 3! and let go and he looooves it! He might start to be putting things inside containers now, too, instead of just dumping them out. But he is throwing his food on the floor and being a picky eater. I use my instincts but wish I had a partner to help me.
So I confess, I have asked stbxh his opinion or what does HE do in those cases.

It is just darn confusing. Am I supposed to pretend he doesn't exist? Or is it ok that I ask him his opinion/help on child rearing questions? This is why I do want to get married again. Raising a kid by yourself is doable but it is DAMN HARD!!! So there is nothing wrong with me for wanting help! He gets to ask OW (barf puke moan!)

Ok another question I have...what about taking up his offer to help me with stuff? Like he offered to help me move my boxes back to my school (I have 2 carloads worth).

Do exes do that kind of stuff for each other or it not part of the deal? You know- like is that wrong?

SO please- let me know-is it ok that I communicate with him about q's I have related to S?

AND is it okay to accept his help? Thank you!