That is exactly why you need to get out and be around people. It will do you good to watch and interact with people who behave in a more healthy manner. And you need some space from living with your W and being with her so much.
I did misread your post and thought you had said your W put items on top of HER things.
You act on emotion and that will never get you anywhere. Think about it, that is exactly what was fueling your W's affair. Now you are doing the same thing.
You don't follow the advice here and IMO it has been made perfectly clear. Make the time to finish the books you have and read them again. What you think is "working" is really just keeping things status quo and the progress you think you see is simply not there.
When you post these exchanges you sound mean and your W sounds like a spoiled brat. You sound like two people that absolutely thrive on pushing each others buttons.
Honestly at this point I would tell your W that you have some big decisions to make about your future, you are not ready to discuss anything and then GET SOME SPACE. Stop answering all her texts and calls. If you want to offer her courtesy simply leave a note on the table "went out for the evening" and leave it at that.
