Wife abandoned me...Now What?

[Deep]

I see Puppy making posts so I don't doubt he will be dropping by one of your threads shortly .

Mike, I know it's hard but you have to let go of certain things, including fear, fear of your M being over, fear of your W's reaction, and stop letting her dictate how you feel, or the state of your M itself.

She's responsible for her part, re-claim your own. Even now, you are trying to fix things for her thinking she might be "pushed" to D becuase of the pain / mess she has caused. She's an adult, nobody forced her to go to OM. Let her take the consequences fully. In fact, you should be ENFORCING the consequences of broken boundaries if anything.

And I hope you follow Puppy closely on the his advice on exposure. Good luck!