Hey Aver & C1285, I just got back in after my login was disabled! I kept thinking it was my BB, but I emailed help & was given a new login. Whew!
Glad to be back.
C1285, I think Avermont is right in that you might want to post all your details in your own thread, that way you get the benefit of many people's advice. Looks like you started one so you many want to copy & paste your posts in there..
But in answer to your questions, if I understand your sitch, it sounds like BF is VERY confused right now. He called 3 times in a day to tell you not to call him?
Would he consider going to joint counseling w you? If not, maybe you should go alone. Something is going on with him, sounds like.
And the thing for you to remember is, you can't solve it for him. You're doing a good job of being calm even when he isn't, and maintaining a supportive, respectful tone with him. Kudos on that, b/c it's very hard to do.
As far as going dark, I'm not totally sure that's what you should do at this point. Going dark is like a last resort technique. Are you really at that point? I hesitate to give you specific advice except to say, try suggesting counseling. Try to find a good relationship/couples counselor. And go alone if he won't go.
Have you looked into a DB Counselor (hope I didn't scare you away from it!
You'll want to keep your longest detailed posts on your own thread to get the max benefit on the board, which is the goal! I don't want to see you miss on the valuable input from others, most of whom are smarter/more successful at this than I am.
You are doing very well in a difficult situation. This is hard, I know but hang in there.
And take care of yourself. Remember to focus on you during this time, otherwise you will become too tired & stressed out to work on the R. Believe me, I've been there! Please take care & check back. I plan to be back on the board more often! Hugs, LFA
