file for D? Or is there something else i can do?

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I have been on here since NOv. 09 when h and I seperated. My former posts have been here we go again, part 2 here we go again.

this is kind of where I am at. since our seperation in november we go through times of talking then darkness initiated by him and by me. during this seperation i gave birth to our 2nd child. we've had sex 1 time very VERY akward.

The complaints he voiced to me have been about his family. he always wished i would speak to his parents and sisters as he says be one with his family. over the past 3 months I have spoken to his mother more then him. so that is not an issue. i even brought that to his attention a month ago.

i said something to the effect of ok well seems to me i've got a relationship with your family so that nowm eans all our troubles are over?

other complaints or rationalization on his part has been that since he didn't have a job that was why we argued. so now that he has "work" a job since feb. hmm we still have problems, now it's his money not ours. so another one of his complaints that are not there any more.

he goes through a period where he wants to be around kids and us then goes dark. again we are stuck in limbo land.

about 2 weeks ago we agreed sort of not to speak about divorce but we aren't talking about anything else.

i'm not really sure what I should do?

should I come to some sort of decision or approach to him to the effect of; boundaries

kind of like a get counseling or file for divorce
provide 1/2 income or i will get court order


Help..