The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

OK well all hell just broke loose again.

W had piled stuff in a closet on top of personal belonging and her wedding dress and I brought this to her attention. W could careless and so I called her words ignorant.

W and I then got into it about the 10 years as my W would out it "10 years of my life wasted." W dug deep to bring up things that I have done and said in the past.

I tried to flip it around and remain positive. W can careless that I changed. W said that I damaged her to the point that she will never feel significant to anyone and that she could never trust a person again because of me.

I said to W "for months I have put fort the effort to show and express the importance of this marriage. I have been loving and caring no matter how unwilling you were or unwanted I felt. You have made it very clear that you do not want this marriage to work and you don't love me anymore."

W and I continued conversation. We both reflected on the past and provided two very different perspectives.

Eventually W got to the point where she said "I feel like I wasted my life on you. I had plans for a future, I wanted to get married and have children at a young age. I cannot see myself ever being happy because of you."

I said "Like you I want happiness and had the same plan of marrying and having children."

W said "Just because we had the same plan in life does not mean we should be together" I replied "I did not suggest that, I am speaking in general"

I then said "You don't want to be here or with me anymore. You are unhappy and cannot wait to leave, what is holding you back?"

W said "what do you mean" and I replied "You want out of this home why are you not doing it?" W said "This is my house just as much as yours, I have nowhere else to go right now"
I replied "you have plenty of places to go, I will help you pack"

W said "you will not touch my stuff and this is my house too, I am on the mortgage and if you want to start this stuff I will make it hell for you."

I told W "That she could remove her name from the mortgage" W said "You cannot do that only I can and I will not do it and just force your family out on the street cause you cannot afford this on your own" I said to W "I will take you to court and sue you for the incentive fund" W said "you want to start that I will never let you see MY dog ever again"

W then went on to say "I am done with you, this marriage get out my face and she closed the door"

SO that did not go well. I have had better interactions with my pasts efforts rather than taking a hard stance as it were suggested.

I don;t see this marriage working after this most resent exchange but had hope with my past approach. I give up to sum it up.