He's Loving the Freedom of the 180 - Now What?

[Jointheclub]

OK, I have to respond to this one - a chance to vent. This "friend" sounds like my WH. Let me change the pronoun and add a few things.

It means:

*He's in the midst of an affair with a "good" family friend/former neighbor
*OW had affair with another neighbor 5 years ago before my WH (!)
*he walked away from his family (he's not abandoning the family, he's just wants out of the marriage, but still wants the kids)
*Threw his wife of 23 years under the bus
*So he could go have sex and have his unmet emotional needs met perfectly by someone who did the same thing to her family
*Told wife I still love you but I'm not in love with you anymore.
*Be happy for me. I'll always be your friend and take care of you.
*We didn't fail, our relationship failed. (GAG!)
*I want to get the kids 50% of the time. They're resilient and will be fine as long as we're excellent co-parents and model a "loving" relationship to them (huh?)

*And they'll both regret it in 2-3 years - I HOPE SO!!!! but not before they've emotionally damaged all the kids.

OK, I could go on and on. Thanks for letting me vent. Really got to get it out once and awhile.

I know I need to forgive some day but I'm not there yet!!!! I always add a prayer that God will allow them both to experience GREAT misery as a result of their choice. I just can't accept the possibility that they will be happy and are truly soulmates (gag me!)

So thank goodness for me that I have Larry's program. I think it's the only thing keeping me sane, although I don't know how well I am applying it. Some days I really struggle with wanting to keep caring. I can see why it can be easy to just throw in the towel.
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W-47, H-47
DD-12, DD-5
EA since '97 and surely PA now
ILYBINILWY Sept. '09
Separated - 4/17/10
OW-46, divorce pending 7/10