I did love him but I do believe it was a selfish love because I did want something in return. Does everyone get to the point of unconditional love with another adult? I don't know but I would like to think so.
Giving selflessly/unselfishly is tough for several reasons 1) When you don't get anything in return- you feel taken advantage of and taken for granted 2) The person you are giving selflessly/unselfishly to sometimes takes you for granted. They know they don't need to give anything. When they aren't giving anything..they sometimes stop valuing you. You come for free..no work is required...and sometimes it leads to a lack of respect.
