no, i understand. i have been told this for a long time, and i have found that it doesn't matter: i can be aloof and independent, or i can be insecure and dependent, and the results are always the same: sexual emptiness.
there is nothing that makes me sexually attractive to her, and she has said time and time again that it has nothing to do with me, yet she has no intentions of changing herself for me.
i guess it's because she feels that she forfiets her power in this marriage, and that's something she just will not do.
