Should she not fill his need for sexual intercourse? Does the fact that her desire is low or null make a difference? "I don't feel like it", I'm sure all the times she wants a massage he will not feel like it but will obligue out of the love for his wife.
Yes, she should want to fulfill his need, but it isn't happening.
In an ideal world their is mutual respect and both parties working to please the other.
In a disfunctional SSM, one of the two parties needs to start and make a commitment to the healing process to get things started again. In my opinion, this is one of the strongest points that MWD makes in her book SSM; the Nike approach, "just do it" and see where it leads to improving the relationship. Other relationship experts talk about filling your partner's love bank prior to their being able to again feel love or let their guard down and open their hearts. I have experienced that first hand.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
