You are talking about me being a lost cause and it causing poeple to have no idea what to say?
It's not that WE believe you are a lost cause. I don't even know you from Adam. I believe people CAN change. They don't usually change their core character, however, unless they are desperate to change or forced to change.
Your W is at the point where she wants to move on with or without you. Witness her not being afraid of losing you by divorcing you.
What we all see is that you made some horrible choices and that you had (and still have) trouble accepting responsibility fully for what you have done, and like your W, we have to wonder if she takes you back, will you do it again?
I can tell you that she is right to wonder about that. How can she be sure? Your words won't reassure her: you've already betrayed her deepest trust, made excuses for doing it, and lied to everybody including yourself.
Time will tell. The ball is in her court now.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
