Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[HDhusband]

What I have a problem with is when we have an unhurried and wonderful candlelight dinner with wine in a fine restaurant, go home, and then she wants nothing to do with sex, and won't even take a raincheck. And even when she says the dinner was great and she has no complaints!!!

If your wife had no legs, you wouldn't be surprised that there was nothing you could do, no matter how hard you tried, to make her get up and walk. Perhpas you should think of sex the same way. Your wife simply has no sexual desire. Period. Romance doesn't change that.

Maybe you can see why I kind of have my doubts sometimes that any women are interested in sex at all!

Not really. Just as very few people are leg-less, very few women have zero sexual desire. Why extrapolate to all women from a sample size of one (your wife)? Although I have no evidence to back this up, my strong suspicion is that, as with most things, sexual desire in men and women falls along a bell curve -- there are extremes at either end, but most people are somewhere in the middle. You and your wife appear to be at opposite extremes. That's terribly unfortunate for you, but it's not a basis for drawing conclusions about the rest of humanity.
Perfectly understandable, and I wouldn't mind if my wife agreed with that at all. What I have a problem with is when we have an unhurried and wonderful candlelight dinner with wine in a fine restaurant, go home, and then she wants nothing to do with sex, and won't even take a raincheck. And even when she says the dinner was great and she has no complaints!!! Maybe you can see why I kind of have my doubts sometimes that any women are interested in sex at all!

And wonder how the heck other couples manage to have sex all the time -- they must be doing something different, that's for sure!

Not necssarily. If both members of a couple have a sex drive, they don't have to "do" anything to "manage" to have sex. They simply have it because they enjoy it, regardless of whatever else is going on.

Your posts suggest that you still think after all these years that if you did something different, your wife would want to have sex with you. I doubt it. Your wife would not have turned down all your advances for 15 years straight if she got anything out of having sex. She appears to have zero sexual desire for it and to get zero out of it. No amount of "romancing" her is going to change that.