So where do I go from here? Wife acts for the most part like everythnig is great. Except she basically comes and goes as she pleases and we do not sleep in the same room. Do I continue to wait it out? Act like everything is great and I am happy? Even when inside I am boiling over and one foot in the grave. Her addiction to the f_ing cell phone is infuriating. I give her 2 days a week to have time to herself and think. Then she comes home at 10PM. I would like to think she is not having an affair, but everythnig sure points to the fact that she is. Maybe she really is just going on walks thinking like she says she is. She usually comes home and gives me a kiss. I would think if she was messing around she would not do that. She also seeks me out at bedtime and gives me a hug and a kiss. To the average person on the outside nobody knows that we are seperated by a wall in our house. I slipped up one time and said we were not sleeping in the same room to a friend, and they said "What, you guys look so happy together." I know in my head that she loves me but I think she still is in the ILYBNILWY place. What can I do to change this? I am to the point that I am ready to tell her to get out of my house because I deserve better. Our S desrves better from her. Maybe that will make her truly think about what she wants. If it is not me, then maybe that is it. I know someone else out there will treat me better. And through the changes I have made from this book and several others I have read, I know I can have a great relationship with someone. But if she thinks we are going to get a divorce and be best friends she is out of her mind. That is what I have now, so if that is what I want I will just continue on the way it it. I just do not feel that is acceptable. Any thoughts?
