can you guys help me? he says he wants to work it out now and i got a job. hes coming over for dinner. he posted a personal add again, but he said he would rather spend time with me. i really want this to work. how do i set boundaries now? he mentioned dating for six months. i say thats too long. he refuses counseling. i know you guys think i should give up, but i love him so much. i was thinking about telling him tonight three months and no seeing other people. what do you guys think?
guys he refuses counseling. but he is showing alot of signs that he wants to work it out. we are going on an overnikght camping trip in two weeks. can i bring up the counseling again after we have some positive interactions?
so after he came over for dinner an we talked on tuesday and he left i asked when we could see eachother again, he asked if i would bring him lunch the next day (yesterday), I did. I asked him to call me and say goodnight. I thought it was reasonable. I just wanted him to take the initiative and show he cared. I wasn't sitting around waiting, but he never called.... I'm not surprised, but I'm a little dissapointed. I sent a text at midnight saying 'you promised to call and say goodnight'. no call this morning or even a text back. i'm trying to stay dedicated and not let it hurt too bad but it just feels like I'm doing all the effort. Is it likely to change at some point?
No time limit but with counseling and complete transparency.
Stop being a doormat, stand up for yourself.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
"he asked if i would bring him lunch the next day (yesterday), I did."
"I asked him to call me and say goodnight."
You stop being treated like a doormat by stopping these things.
He tested you and your commitment to him by asking you to bring him lunch. HELLO?! He should be bringing YOU lunch. No remorse means no respect.
Right now DO NOT contact him for any reason. Even when he contacts you DO NOT respond. He might have gotten "scared" since you were dating someone else. But in the end you're still left alone and confused.
As hard as it is, don't fall in for his tricks. Stand your ground and the belief that you will not be jerked around like a puppet on a string.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
