She talked to me again last night and told me she doesn't think that I have a motive behind my actions.
She also sat down on my lap and said she was a broken person and doesn't feel she can give me 100% of herself. She said that's one of the things she's been working on in counseling.
She said she has made great strides, but asked me to give her time to repair herself.
This is the part I don't understand. Just because a person can't give their spouse 100% at any given time in the M doesn't mean they need to get a D. That's part of marriage - each spouse will go up and down in life, it's part of life. Sometimes one spouse is more invested in the R than the other and vise-versa.
On your last sentence, Give her more time? I'm not sure what she's thinking, but time is decreasing every day that D date comes up. If a person wants more time, which is what you guys have a lot of (because there is no impending reason to rush for a D), then take the time limiting factors out of the equation and leave time open ended.
You said above she needs the date there because she's afraid you won't keep your changes. Well that seems to be backwards. If the date comes and goes, you keep the changes but decided the date is a point of no return, then she's out of luck.
On the other hand, if the date disappears, then she'll know if your changes start to diminish as time passes.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
