^^^All true, Pigskin.^^^ No need to apologize for planting seeds of suspicion, she has done a fine job of that herself. And I didn't do a good job of following my instincts to find out what was really going on. A mistake I won't make again.
Last night, W apologized for telling me not to use the credit card. She said we are just low on money and she's trying to get a full time job but no one will hire her until she gets her certification up to date. That will cost around $600.00. She said it will be so much for school supplies, so much for Dr. appts., dental exams, on and on. I asked her how she was going to afford her half of all of this and pay rent on a place of her own. She said she is not thinking of D right now, just paying bills.
I let it drop and waited until she went to sleep. I got out the banking statements and looked them over for the first time in a long time.(she handles the banking-always has) Just a quick rundown-from May of '08 to May of '09 there were only 5 withdrawals from the savings totaling about $500.00, and regular deposits. The time suggests real estate taxes, Christmas and other things that aren't suspicious. From June of '09 to May of 2010, there are 21 withdrawal averaging about $350.00 and maybe two deposits. WTF? How could I be so ignorant? She has dwindled our savings down to about $600.00. And now she's worried?
Just yesterday, I was scared to take the leap to tell her I would not wait any longer and if she wouldn't file that I would be forced to. Funny how I'm not scared anymore.
I have been thinking all night and will tell her tonight that I will see a L, I will seek 50/50 custody and the family home. If this is her epiphany, I will give her one last chance. No contact with super, transparency, no coaching of anything, and quit the school board when her term is up this year. All the stuff I should have said long ago. Odd how everyone was right all along with what my "plan" should be. Even after all this time, I new better, my sitch was different.
