NM

try to stop thinking of replacement dads and intact families

an intact family
is one where the members love and respect each other

more importantly than saving a marrage is
saving yourself

work on how you can be complete on your own
regardless of what your Husband feels or does not feel, does or does not do

when you can stop guaging everything by how he responds or what he may or may not be thinking

that is growth

do for you
be the person you were always meant to be inside

often when something this horrible happens to us we go into survival mode
and
we forget that we need to be in LIVE mode


you are stopping living because you are focusing on him and what he thinking if he has doubts, what they could be

I used to think that a couple was that...a couple...together...2 parts

what I have learned from this is that I am whole all on my own
my life would continue if Cori were to leave

I would still be a terrific mom
an awesome teacher
a wonderful friend

it is in this state that I am fully able to appreciate and love Cori for who he is...not what he does for me (although I do appreciate that!!!)

it is because I am whole that I can love him with my whole person