I'm sorry that it didn't go differently for you and H. As hard as it is, this is the time for you to create and live the life you want and to figure out what makes you happy. Its not going to be easy and I can guarantee that H will come begging again (expect it, because it will happen and will continue everytime he doesn't get what he wants/needs from OW).
I'll keep checking back on you and I'm on the alt as well. Keep your chin up.
S&S
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option