Ok, well, the DB motto is something like 2 steps forward and one step back, right?
So OF COURSE there has been some major steps back.lol. We went to the C yesterday and I knew he'd "spin" all the homework he had to do that he did none of.
He said I didn't try to communicate--which--no, dear, when you are screaming obsenities at me, this is NOT communication.
The C basically said Ok, guys, I can take your money for however long you want to do this. You need to learn to communicate whether you stay together or get separated or divorced. What do you want to do?
I told him I was doing all the things he had told me to do, and I want to fix this.
My H said he wanted out. So...long story short, C said for him to "communicate" and work out w/me what that means--separation, divorce, what?
Here's the thing--he has no problem wasting people's time and money. He has no intention of "communicating" without a screamimg match. This is so much more of the same and I'm SOOOO tired of it.
So I think I am going to move into the spare bedroom. Let him taste "separation" for a bit. I also am going "balls to the wall" with whatever I want to do. Or should I have HIM move to the spare bedroom??
It's so weird--my sister-in-law and I have been talking non-stop. I have told her pretty much EVERYTHING and have gotten SO much support from her!! She's been there through 3 of her sibling's divorces and she knows a lot of these techniques. Plus she is a Christain and is helping me in that way too.
She has been SO WONDERFUL!! She calls me in the a.m. (mystery!) and all the stupid stuff my H has been saying she tells ME to IGNORE most of what they say and look at actions--is she smart or WHAT!!
(just for a laugh, my H told the councelor yesterday that he's "mad" at my parents for spending money to get me a college education!lol.) 25+ years ago!
Oh boy, this is a roller coaster! I USED to like them so much, but today my head aches.lol.
I have workers coming to day to finish up the drywall AND to do the other thing my H said "why didn't you do that".lol.
