When I first found out about the A my W is having, I told a whopper of a story that made her think and question my sanity. She brought it up tonight. It was never true, but it started out harmless, and it became bigger and bigger until it became out of control on both our parts and she blames me. I take responsibility for my part, but it started with something she said while we were showering together. It seemed it would save our M, but it may have ended it. I never told her the truth, and I am reluctant to do that now with the D. She plans to bring it up in her response to question my sanity to care for the kids. I put it to rest the best I could at time, and I never brought it up again. It did a lot of harm. I know we could save our M, but I need to do the right thing. I know this is part of the problem. How do I deal with. I need help from everyone to come up with the right answer to save my M.
We need a little more information. It sounds like it may not be too pleasant to share but would help to know what you are talking about.
Settle down and get back to your plan. She can threaten and blow hard all she wants. Don't let her rattle your cage.
I have no doubt that your not a leech. Look at any guys closet and then look at his wife's. No comparison. Don't let things like that bother you. If you are anything at all like me, there are a whole lot more things I would rather do and things I would rather spend my money on than shopping for clothes and staying up on the latest fashions.
She is playing mind games. Don't let her get to you. This will be a fight, no doubt. Prepare for it. Follow through with it. Be strong.
