Can I ask you something? Has your W done anything like Mila's husband is doing? Has she taken her om back to a place where she grew up and honeymooned with you?
What if told you she boinked him on the very spot we took our vows?
Would my words carry more weight?
We ALL understand these feelings. Some of us more than others based on our sitches and circumstances.
Look I am not saying she shouldn't feel sad. I am not saying ayone shouldn't come here and vent.
Share their feelings...
That is what we are here for...
This stuff does hurt until we decide that we won't let it anymore.
That is my point.
Does W do things that still piss me off?
Yup.
Upset me?
Yup.
My point is if we keep letting them control our joy by their own selfish ends then we are stuck.
I am telling her not to run away from her pain but rather run toward joy.
It is a choice.
It IS understanding that it is no longer something that they have done TO you. Or will continue to do to you.
H isn't even thinking of how it is hurting Mila.
This is a process and the end game is when you detach with love, accept, forgive.
Keep moving toward a better you.
These days when we have to come here and vent because of something our
A$$hat, B-turd, F@cktard, Rock with Lips,
MLCers did
Should be getting fewer and fewer if we are moving forward.
Am I there yet?
Nope.
Do I know where I want to go?
I think so through the help and guidance of these wise folks here and people who are moving through this with me.
My message to Mila:
Take care of Mila. Find joy for Mila.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
