Ugh, DanF, what is it about the WAS that makes them try and minimize how the kids will feel? I suppose it's to protect themselves against feeling guilt for their decision, but I despise it nonetheless. You can't pretend the "kids will be fine." It's too big a change in their lives for them to ignore it.
Right. The conversations below happened a while back, so no new confrontations are occurring, but here are the things she is rationalizing.
She actually told me that if we canceled our summer family vacation slated for August that the cancelation might be as hard on the kids as the divorce! Therefore, I need to suck it up and go anyway. Nevermind the cost and the fact that we are strapped for cash and will be taking a big loss on our home. We must go.
She wasn't worried about arranging for a kids counselor because she already knew what to tell them and all kids don't need to go to counseling when their parents get divorced anyway. This would be something we could just react to if needed. I told her that it didn't hurt to be prepared and I was going to set up an appointment so we could agree on a counselor in advance and didn't have to wait too long to get them in if necessary.
Then, while she says above that the divorce is no big deal, it would be extremely difficult on the kids to have a 50%/50% placement arrangement, so I should think about what is best for the kids and let her have them full-time and I would get them every other week-end.
What planet is she on?
I told her what would be best for the kids would be to fix the problems in the Marriage and all of us live together as a family. She said it isn't possible because she "just doesn't feel that way about me anymore."
Ok. I hope this makes you happy.......but I dont think it will....
