Can I ask you something? Has your W done anything like Mila's husband is doing? Has she taken her om back to a place where she grew up and honeymooned with you?
Put yourself in her shoes for a minute. I get what you're saying, but I also think Mila has done a dam* good job of stepping out of her H's way while still giving herself time and allowing herself to feel and process the pain that this is causing her.
Not to mention that her H is using the funds generated by the business they're in together to finance these little jaunts.
I don't have a lot of time this a.m. but just wanted to say that I have read that they will do that...take their OW's to the special places that were once yours...IDK why..
Let's just hope that while they are there, your memories will haunt him the whole time he is there....
Does his family know about her?
Mila, you are doing well for yourself, reconnecting with old friends and galing! TG said it is time for Mila!!!! Go for it!
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Can I ask you something? Has your W done anything like Mila's husband is doing? Has she taken her om back to a place where she grew up and honeymooned with you?
What if told you she boinked him on the very spot we took our vows?
Would my words carry more weight?
We ALL understand these feelings. Some of us more than others based on our sitches and circumstances.
Look I am not saying she shouldn't feel sad. I am not saying ayone shouldn't come here and vent.
Share their feelings...
That is what we are here for...
This stuff does hurt until we decide that we won't let it anymore.
That is my point.
Does W do things that still piss me off?
Yup.
Upset me?
Yup.
My point is if we keep letting them control our joy by their own selfish ends then we are stuck.
I am telling her not to run away from her pain but rather run toward joy.
It is a choice.
It IS understanding that it is no longer something that they have done TO you. Or will continue to do to you.
H isn't even thinking of how it is hurting Mila.
This is a process and the end game is when you detach with love, accept, forgive.
Keep moving toward a better you.
These days when we have to come here and vent because of something our
A$$hat, B-turd, F@cktard, Rock with Lips,
MLCers did
Should be getting fewer and fewer if we are moving forward.
Am I there yet?
Nope.
Do I know where I want to go?
I think so through the help and guidance of these wise folks here and people who are moving through this with me.
My message to Mila:
Take care of Mila. Find joy for Mila.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
I'm not disagreeing with you at all. All I'm saying is this is a big one for Mila and from what I got from her post she is doing a great job of handling it.
