Why are they so amazed that they will have to share the money to get the divorce? Given the thought they claim they have put in this process ("I've thought about it for five months, and I know this is the only way for sure") that some details of the process have also crossed their minds. Or at least that they have checked on the internet what the laws are.
yes, bizarre isn't it?
What gets me about your H is why he keeps insisting he needs a D for his mental health. Strange!!! Either there is OP or he is reaaly lost (unwell) in which case I suggest you not try to "fix" anything. Practice loving detatchment, draw boundaries, and protect yourself.
That visa issue is also worrying. Is the US where you want to be?
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
