Yeah - she called yesterday to tell me that the deadbolt jammed in her apartment and she missed her flight for a trip she planned.
She continues to be discombobulated. I'm still the one she calls. This site does not work well with the phone. I turn 40 today. Guess I feel this is not where I wanted to be in life. Oh well, self pity is useless.
Happy Birthday Bill! It takes time to get your feet under you. I think you guys have a shot of making it work, but first you have to, must, work on you. It can't fit together with two broken pieces...I would think that would be a great motivator to get you through this time.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Arghhh, everyone's thread has moved (started new ones) and I'm behind the ball again finding you! Ok, happy belated birthday. Can't tell if you're back from the alt yet, so drop a line when you are. Hope you had a fabulous 40th and time at your sister's- I want to go there, it's so green!!!!
And may I reiterate how strange and confusing it is for us to figure out how to behave in our X's presence, or even STBX. How the heck do you go from years of that kind of familiar touching - the hair in the fingers, etc- or being in each other's space to.... what? where do you go? I wish there was some kind of manual for this stuff sometimes... And I hope you don't end up being called all the time when she needs something- you need at least a small break from her emotionally, IMO (though tell me to shut up if you don't agree :-), to find your new life and everyday rhythm without her disrupting it just yet...
-A
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
