MLC - standing by my man

[Mila]

Twink, CW, M&H, Jack, SA & GAG - I'm still alive ...sorry that I didn't reply sooner...things are kind of crazy for me...and I'm GALing too...so didn't have much time to spend on the boards lately.

Twink, CW, M&H & Jack thank you so much for your opinions and input re: Talking to OW's H. I see your concerns and you are right to point out the pitfalls of talking to him...because they are there. You are the greatest...I appreciate you looking out for me.

I'm feeling detached enough to be OK with the little information he shares...it doesn't send me spinning anymore....mostly I'm just shaking my head at what those two "soul mates" (yuk) are doing.

CW & SA - thank you for checking on me ...I'm doing good... considering

GAG - Thank you for sharing your story...It helps....because I get discouraged by the lack of communication with H and feel that any connection/closeness that we still had is continuing to deteriorate....It's good to see (in your case) that it's possible to turn that around...

Update:

My GAL's - Tennis Friday Morning, stables with D, clothes shopping in the afternoon. Tennis Saturday morning, coffee with a friend in the afternoon. Sunday afternoon with girlfriends. Sunday evening watched Avatar with D & her BF.

Noticing that my weekends are filling up socially...I'm reconnecting with old friends and making new ones

H came to work on the garden again on Saturday....and I had a little “exchange” with him. What happened is that after he did some work he just made himself comfortable and was relaxing and suntanning by the pool....I was inside and I look out of the window and he is sleeping in the lounge chair. Somehow It got me angry...is that why he is coming...so he can use the yard? He told D last week how much he misses our backyard. Anyway I needed to program the sprinkler system...and asked him how to do it...I guess I was sounding a little peeved off.... a) because he was happily sun tanning there b) because I hate asking him for anything... he said “Why are you so pissed off? What did I do?” ...seriously? As for the sprinklers he said he doesn’t remember how it’s programmed that every year he just has to figure it out. So I started to do it myself, and told him to never mind, if you can figure it out, so can I. He said, well you already asked me so I can do it for you. I said that I shouldn’t have asked him. Then he got all pissed off and stormed out...just left... without saying bye....This whole exchange left me feeling bad...oh well...

Sunday H emailed me 2x, but I didn't see the emails as I was out all afternoon. So he calls me, upset that he didn't hear back from me. Wanted to come to the house to pick up something from the garage...When he got there he found me D & her BF all cozy, relaxing and watching a movie, ....we were absorbed in the movie and nobody paid any attention to him, D barely replied when he said hi to her. He was standing by the sofa for a minute and then said "bye I'm going now"...I cheerfully replied and he left. I know him and I know that he felt really left out.
He texted D at midnight (again...why that late?) asking her to come to his place for dinner the next day and bring her BF. I guess he wanted to have a nice evening with them as well.

Now a bit of news that really shocked me and I must admit upset me. Just found out that H is taking OW to Europe for a 2 week vacation....besides taking time from work (again) and not being able to afford it, he is taking her to a place where we got married and lived together and introducing her to his family and staying with them...his family that was my family for 32 years.....will sleep with her in the same bed that we slept together and stay in the actual house where our wedding was hosted. I can't believe he is doing this...he is still married to me, only left (for the last time) 2 months ago and he is bringing his "girlfriend" to our special place.

On days like this I'm thinking MLC or not this guy is disgusting...he can go to he**....I don't want him back, I deserve better.

Well these are my thoughts just before going to bed...we will see if I feel the same tomorrow.

Note: I didn't cry when I found out...that tells me that I'm either pretty detached or that I just don't give a dam* about him anymore...