Okay, so I read the eBook and was feeling encouraged to fully expose and then enter protection phase. Then, I decided to check out the boards from Penny Tupy's site and I found this information below (referencing her own divorce and relationship problems). If I'm an intelligent person, would I take advice from someone who, despite her expertise, has not been able to save her own marriage?
Dear SYMCers –
First let me offer an apology for my long absence and silence over the last year. Many things have changed in my life – some of which made it unwise and unsafe to maintain my public presence here.
Second – and this is long overdue – an enormous thank you to the SYMC Angels who, during a financially difficult period for most of us (and at the holidays to boot!), gave from their hearts to help a nameless family facing a tough situation. That family was mine. Thanks especially to Just_J who headed the covert operation in the midst of an increasingly busy time in her own life. There are not words to tell you how humbled and grateful I am to each of you.
My divorce was officially final the first week in December (2009) a year after we filed. Because there are still significant legal/financial issues unresolved (I had Aunt Clara (think: Bewitched) as an attorney and Steve had a psychopath (literally – no joke there) as his) there is little more I am willing to say about it publicly. Let’s leave it as the entire process was far longer, more expensive, and way more traumatic than it needed to be. Those of you who know the history of my marriage will have a pretty good idea of the bigger picture.
I’ve debated back and forth what to do with SYMC. There were legal issues that made it imprudent to so much as change the color of a forum without fear of (expensive and traumatic) backlash. Couldn’t close it (significant change of status of marital property) - and since I was accused of making huge sums of money and hiding it I was wary of any appearance of increased activity on my part.
I also didn’t know if this was work I was still able to do. It was very difficult to read of others’ situations with any amount of objectivity while in the middle of my own nightmare from the Great Below. As soon as I would start to feel the earth under my feetr again something else would come up and all my pstd symptoms would be having their way with me once again. I finally just put it all on a mental back burner and focused on taking care of kids and pets and home and me … errr … not necessarily in that order….
These boards are $50 a month to keep them up and running. I’m not sure that’s something I can continue to do but I’m looking at options. There are many forums out there with premium boards that are by subscription – that’s one possibility. There are some really good free forums (no charge to owner to operate) which is another possibility. Right now I’m thinking I want to play with the structure and the direction and then we’ll see about the where part later.
My daily life has changed as well and I don’t have the same time I once did to be present here close to 24/7. Not sure that’s a bad thing Over the next week I’ll be reading and reacquainting myself with everything. I recognize lots of old friends and many new ones yet to meet. I’ve lurked a bit but only enough to see how incredibly amazing our dedicated volunteers are in keeping the flame alive. Special thanks to Loui, GS, Sharon, Sleepy, Spidey, Sandy, and SB for your dedication to helping others through the trauma of marital crises and for your love and support during this difficult time in my life.
