Need a Plan for My Marriage

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IDU,

Thank you so much!

When I first found out about the A my W is having, I told a whopper of a story that made her think and question my sanity. She brought it up tonight. It was never true, but it started out harmless, and it became bigger and bigger until it became out of control on both our parts and she blames me. I take responsibility for my part, but it started with something she said while we were showering together. It seemed it would save our M, but it may have ended it. I never told her the truth, and I am reluctant to do that now with the D. She plans to bring it up in her response to question my sanity to care for the kids. I put it to rest the best I could at time, and I never brought it up again. It did a lot of harm. I know we could save our M, but I need to do the right thing. I know this is part of the problem. How do I deal with. I need help from everyone to come up with the right answer to save my M.

I am so sorry I let it get out of control. I tried to stop it, but it was too late, and I am embarrassed I did it.

I knew it cause a lot of emotions in her, and I always felt bad, but I did not know how to tell the truth at the time and not make her feel stupid or worse. I was mad about the A too.

I need to make sure that I do not hurt my case at the D hearing either.

I am so screwed now, and I can't take it back.

I hope others on this forum do not make this type of mistake because it is very hard to change it once you have.

Now I have so many other problems.

I will have to live with this forever.

She is still mad about me not having a job.

What do I do to save my M and not hurt my D.

Please everyone help with this. I need to do the right thing, but I am "between a rock and a very hard place."

I need a response soon.