Sandi has given you some great wisdom. Remember, men and women are wired differently. Men can get into a shouting match, throw a punch, then 1/2 hour later have a beer and say "don't worry about it, all is well".
A woman can feel like somebody looked at her weird and not forget about it for years, if at all. Feelings, intuition, perception, whatever you want to call it.
Obviously it's unknown if your wife will file or push for divorce at the one year mark, but I do believe this. She is just fine being single right now. Responsible only for herself in regards to time, money, friends, etc.
She knows overall what you are up to. You have known each other long enough that she knows your basic habits, interests, etc. You do still spend too much energy obsessing with what she is thinking. You can stop obsessing and still love her, that's a big part of what detaching is all about.
