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[ClingingToHope]

The definition of family is tough. I remember the original conversation with the girls when I moved out. D11 was crying saying we weren't a family and STBXW and I both said we're still a family, just one where mommy and daddy don't live together anymore.

But since then I've been the one consistently trying to create more separate lives -- and I'm doing it for me and not the girls. I went through the parenting classes that say you should talk twice a week about what's going on with your kids.

I hope to get to that point some day. Right now I can't.

I guess I'm saying your definition of family will evolve over time.