I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

I just found out that he was going to see a mutual friend of ours tonight who I do not think will support him, but he has kept such a distance from everyone for years that it's hard to find anyone who can make him feel uncomfortable. Even his parents, whom he saw this weekend, didn't chew him out. They weren't happy with his decision and said they were concerned for both of us, but they didn't call him a jerk or anything either.

I saw him briefly today for the first time since he left (boy was that tough) because we had financial and house stuff to deal with, and I delivered "the letter" in person to him at least twice.

Here's the interesting part: I said something briefly about 2 male colleagues who have offered help to me--of the "call anytime if you need anything and I'll come over", and one of them went to the lawyer appt with me for moral support and the other was over already once for a house problem. So my husband was incredulous at this. Not angry, just shocked, because he said "these are both MARRIED MEN. Won't their wives be angry or suspicious??" And I said "that's ludicrous. But clearly, it rattled him.

When he came in he noticed that I was VERY dressed up in a pretty sexy dress that never fit till I lost 14 pounds in 14 days. Well he questioned this, and I said "I'm going out when you leave." He didn't say any more, but when he was walking out the door, he said "where was it you were going again?" And I said "that's for me to know...not your business." And he just got this look of shock on his face.

HA!