CW- people seem to like to blame the wife when the husband leaves. And when you are a kind, respectful person, it doesn't make sense to them. In fact, it scared all of my friends when I tld them my stbxh cheated because it made them think "WOW if it happened to newmama, it could happen to me!"
So I think they make up some kind of explanation....like the crazy one you heard! Yep, laughing it off and holding your head high sound like the solution to this one!
I am just being silly here and am NOT SUGGESTING you say these liners to anyone! But am amusing myself at responses you could imagine giving:
"Well actually, I didn't have a drinking problem until AFTER he left me for the woman!" (ba dum bump cha!)
"No, I don't have a boyfriend, but if you can set me up with someone, let me know!" (ba dum bump cha!)
"Yeah I had a problem- not enough alcohol to deal with his cheating!" (ba dum bump cha!)
"No boyfriend, and no husband for that matter either!" (ba dum bump cha!)
Ok I hope these were okay to say and not over the top!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Thanks SA! Yes, small towns although this was from a co-worker of H's so he and OW are trying to justify their affair.
NM! I love the one liners! My friend and I did joke a little last night after my cell phone rang and she asked who it was and I said my BF...we laughed.
The bad thing is, is that my friend said this in front of DIL...DIL was pissed big time about the rumor! My friend apologized today for telling me in front of DIL as she had seen her reaction.
Went to the "celebration" in the park tonight..oh man was it hot and humid! Chased kids around and then a couple of friends and I went to the beer garden...I had 2 cups of beer....hopefully that is not a problem!!! lol
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Hi mystik! According to rumor...2 kegs would be more like it!
GAG...seriously...you have done very well in your sitch and I do really want to be like you! You seem like a very kind person too and am so happy to have your thoughts posted!!!!
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I have a question for you. Mind you this is not in any way a citicism, just curiosity. You are not the only one to express this this way. If your husband has filed, and I assume you don't want a D, why do you call them the STBXH? I understand that you can't stop anyone who truly wants a divorce from getting one, but does this signal that you are accepting of his decision regarding your life? Have you stopped standing? Again, I am not being critical, just inquisitive.
That is a great question punkin! I have actually been thinking of changing it back to WAH or H. I have been reading a lot on the power of positive thinking and by using stbx I am expressing negative thoughts!
In fact, I think I will do that right now!
I was posting on your thread at the same time you were on mine!
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Hey SA! Doing good! Busy, busy weekend! Busy day today cleaning and getting ready for a party, my DIL is starting to sell something so I told her I'd have a party (I HATE having parties so could this count as a 180?) Then, remembered that I still needed to clean the shop where I work so just got back from that....phew!!!!
D11 called H late Sat. night to tell him she went on a scary carnival ride...he didn't answer but did call back in the a.m. Then she tried calling him again this morning, no answer, no call back. Her birthday is this weekend...will be interesting to see what happens!
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