Heartbroken and needing help!

[irishblessings]

I'm tired and lonely and sad -
so I could say "yes, you can stay - but in lieu of rent I want you to work on the m"
That would be controlling AND doomed for failure
I could say "no, I'm sorry for your situation - however I don't think that it would be a good idea"

I am gun shy right now about any decisions. Do I ask him what moving back in means to him? Is it more of the same or is it different? Or is that pushing a R talk on him?

I am so sorry to sound so ignorant - I have NEVER felt this way before and I HATE it! I have never felt so hopeless and helpless and alone! Sorry - more whining!
I am out of town for work and it's the first time that there hasn't been anyone to give a sh** if I'm ok / if I made it here ok, etc. Definite self pity going on! UGLY!