Husband left me 3 months pregnant...

[newmama]

BD I don't get why your H doesn't want a divorce if he doesn't want to commit to falling in love with you.

I want you to consider something. 2-3 months post birth...if your H still isn't committing to you or to divorce...be open to filing for divorce. (well maybe you have a different timeline)

I learned that filing is just an initiation. You can drop it, you can drag it out, you can proceed. It feels so final, but it isn't!

The reason why I am suggesting this in your case is that
your H really does want all of you except the wife and sex (it could be related to you being pregnant though).

In your own time, you will figure out what you want. But, I think, and I could be wrong and won't feel bad if you disagree, the filing on your part could scare him into realizing he will lose you and he will come back.

People said this to me and I swore that if I did it, the stbxh would say "ok. you are right. this is best." but I don't think your H would!

However he might not believe you are serious. So just file this in the back of your mind, ok?