We've all posted about what you need to do. Go back and re-read them. Be patient with yourself. We all slip up from time to time.
I'm thinking his time scale is off. He expects results--good or bad--in a time frame as if this were an ordinary argument. He's not grasping the months ahead.
I probably do expect something too soon. We never really argued much at all, so I don't really know what think. I guess the answer is lots of patience. Everyone has said it. You are right, there are months ahead of me while this thing drags out. I'm just going to keep my mouth shut for a while. No one else to call out anyway.
Sons baseball team won tonight to move to the championship game. I was in bleachers when W got there and she actually sat next to me and made a few comments. I was very brief in return. Did not initiate any conversation myself. Talked to all the people around me and had a good time. Home now and in my room on my laptop. W is downstairs trying to get all her paperwork together for meeting with attorney on Friday. Both of us are meeting with atty's on Friday. Should be interesting. I still have some work to do on my own paperwork too. I summarized all of our expenses for the last 12 months and she wants me to share it with her. Not sure that I should.
Have a meeting set-up Wednesday afternoon to interview a childrens counselor and talk about how to talk to the kids and how to tell if they need someone to talk to. Got a lot of good advice here that I will discuss with the counselor. I set it up and invited W to come also. W thinks they will be fine, and maybe they will. Lots of kids going through this these days, but that doesn't mean I want mine to have to. She wants to tell them shortly after we see the counselor. Not looking forward to that. Makes it feel like there is a certain finality to it.
Softball game for me tomorrow, so I should be out until maybe 9pm. W probably won't be up that long after that anayway.
Thanks for listening and helping. Trying to learn from you all........
