I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Look. my stbxh was affectionate, hardworking, extremely giving, extremely attentive to details, took care of everything, helped me sooo much and my family, helped me in my classroom, cooked, cleaned, listened, fixed broken things, paid the bills, kept the yard up.

So it is EXTREMELY hurtful and painful to me when people try to tell me he "is not worth it," is a POS, you should hate him, he's worthless, you can do better etc.

I am NOT wearing blinders. I don't think every husband or wife is worth "waiting and hoping" for or worth reconciling with. But my husband was NOT a scumbag! Yes he hurt me incredibly, he is hurting our son, he is doing these stupid destructive things. But he is more than just a man who left his pregnant wife for the office trashy scumbag jezebel disgusting tramp!

And I read on here soo many husbands who did a lot worse ON TOP of cheating. I am embarrassed that I was so selfish and clueless during our time together. Maybe this happened to teach me how to be a better wife and have a long lasting relationship in my next marriage!