Exposed finally,,limbo land

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Update:
W has rented a home in the neighborhood and will be moving in Thursday. We still haven’t talked with D14 or D8, yet I know that W has spoke about it with D14, we will do official talk tonight or tomorrow morning with her, and then the tough talk with D8 soon after that.

I did ask her to describe what SHE would say, and reminded her that this is not a ‘we’ thing, but it is her choice and it will need to be put across that way by her, or she knows I will correct it immediately. She used the word ‘separate’ not D, so I inquired where she sat on that subject, and she replied ‘I don’t know right now, but I also don’t want to put our lives on hold’. Lease on other home is 12 months(if she wasn’t lying).

OM will not be helping her move, she lined up 3-4 other mom’s to help her, and as she did 5 years ago, taking only a few things. I will be working 12 hours that day, but will drop by to make sure OM and/or his friends are not around.

I have not been served any papers, and she says I won’t be, that we will go more civilly than that to save money on attorney fees if we head down the D road. She will have to do all of it, I am conferring often with my L to make sure I’m ready for whatever happens. Unfortunately I sense that she will serve me, as soon as she is comfortable in the other house. (I hate being a pessimist)

I have very little interaction with her at this time, she sleeps elsewhere in the house if she is at the house. She has stopped the contact with OM in and around house(hopefully also when I’m not present).

Allen and Puppy, I’m truly trying to do what will work for the M, the OM is her drug, and she will do anything to get it right now. I have no effect except negative right now, so I am concentrating on my interactions with DD’s to make sure they know I am there for them. I apologize for not having a stronger approach, I have tried to institute a lot of what you’ve recommended, please don’t give up on me, I still need the encouragement - lest I totally fail in all respects, and get everything wrong.

PS - her BF will not interact with me at this time, outside of saying 'hi' and other very small talk.