So, now that it's my week with Calla and I'll be home most of the time (have Thurs and Friday off-my parents' 50th this weekend), I'm thinking I need to get our finances separated. I can't stand the thought of her continuing to pile up debt (she's still buying smokes and gas and the account has been dry for two weeks) not to mention the chance she's spending it on "others" (I need that CC statement, too)

Any thoughts? Am I "pushing" the divorce or giving her a taste of how financially rough it will be?

PDT-which Willard Harley books should I read?